All children at one time or another need to be disciplined.  Even if the child was just praised minutes before he/she may need to be disciplined for misbehaving.  Parents who were harshly disciplined as children, may face the task of diciplining his own child with difficulty.  The painful memories that come to mind cause the parent to either repeat the same treatment with their own children or make a decision to discipline with  kindness and  respect.   By stopping the cycle of abuse and approaching the situation with calmness, allows each one to maintain their sense of dignity and self respect.  Disciplining a child  is an opportunity for a parent to teach a child a life time lesson.  When it is done harshly, the lasting effect is a negative association of the lesson.  But, when it is done with respect, the lasting effect is remembered as a positive experience and repeated years later with his child  in the same positive way.  Make opportunities such as disciplining your child a chance to let your child know how much you love him/her.  It is moments like this that make the bond between a parent and child that much stronger.