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How can one become a child advocate?

Sheila Aron — Sun, 03 Apr 2011 02:41:48 +0000

A child advocate is someone who cares about all children being safe, protected and loved. It is hard to imagine but there are children who are being abused somewhere and bearing the added silent burden of fear if they reveal this terrifying secret. During the month of April, Child Abuse Awareness month, let your voice be heard that all children should be treated with love, respect, compassion and acceptance. We, as child advocates, can hopefully help prevent a parent or adult stop the avoidable crime of child abuse before it occurs. Start this month wearing a blue ribbon, the color of Child Abuse Awareness, or anything that is blue that will attract attention and start a conversation about this terrible crime against children being prevented and ending forever. We can all help make a difference in a child’s life by spreading the word that child abuse can be prevented starting now. www.sheilaaaronbooks.com

How can you help end the cycle of child abuse?

Sheila Aron — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 22:27:45 +0000

April is Child Abuse Awareness month and blue is the signifying color. Is blue the chosen color to symbolize the bruises that a child suffers at the hands of an abuser? Or does blue represent the hope a child dreams of that the abuse will end? Help end the cycle of abuse and show support for child abuse awareness month by wearing something blue all month long – blue finger nail polish, blue shoes, blue scarf, blue bow tie, blue socks, blue anything – and bring awareness of child abuse to the forefront. Help make a child’s dream of a safe, secure and loving childhood a reality. Begin a dialogue about ending child abuse and ask what we can do for those children who can’t speak up for themselves so that future generations can know a childhood of love, respect, acceptance and compassion. Be a child advocate for children all over the world who are being abused. Wear something blue throughout the month of April and help end the cycle of child abuse. www.sheilaaronbooks.com

Child Abuse – How can we help prevent it?

Sheila Aron — Fri, 31 Dec 2010 15:54:47 +0000

It is hard to believe each time we hear about child abuse occuring, that it has happened again. What comes over someone that they loose control or, even worse, actually plans to abuse a child? Each time we, the public by-standers, are told of yet another child being brutally murdered by an adult – family member, acquaintance or stranger – we shake our heads in disbelief, ask why and go on about our normal routine. How can we as caring individuals reach out to someone we know who is being abused. Our reaction is to turn away in disgust because the matter is too horrible to talk about, much less get invovled with someone elses problems. Is it really someone elses problem? Aren’t we all responsible when any child is being abused? We need to ask ourselves how we can help a child or even the perpetrator who might have been abused himself/herself as a child. Find out how you can help stop child abuse. Begin by providing the name of a qualified agnecy in your area where someone can go for help. Don’t look away if a child is in need of help. He/she is not able to stop the abuse alone. Do the right thing – Help prevent child abuse. www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

What drives someone to abuse their child?

Sheila Aron — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 13:44:08 +0000

A child’s innocence and trust makes him/her the most vulnerable among us. A child should never become the target of anothers unhappiness and disappointment with life. For someone who was abused as a child it is understandable that there is anger and sadness. Taking revenge on ones own child for how he/she was mistreated is not the answer. Retaliation on an innocent child only leads to more abuse and no good can come of that. Abuse of any type distroys a persons self esteem and dims ones ability to see a future with hope. Children deserve to have a childhood full of laughter, love and good memories to pass on to the next generation and the next. Reach out to someone who may be too frightened to ask for help. Help someone who may not know there is anyone who cares. Help someone before he/she abuses his child. Help make childhood fun for all children.

Do you demonstrate patience, tolerance and respectfulness for your child?

Sheila Aron — Fri, 22 Oct 2010 12:37:08 +0000

Demonstating patience, tolerance and respectfulness is one of the most important lessons that you can teach your child. Our patience is constantly being tested when we have to stand in line at the grocery store or at the bank, wait in heavy traffic, at a doctors office or simply for the ketchup to slide out. Just as we expect to be treated with respect and tolerance so should we treat others in the same way. We are so busy in our daily lives and having to tolerate inconveniences sometimes pushes us beyond our limit. If you allow yourself to lose control and blow your top your child will see this as the natural way to handle a situation and imitate your behavior in other situations that might come up. Remember that what you do and say is seen and heard by your greatest admirer. Choose your words and actions with care because what you teach your child he/she will teach his children. By showing patience, tolerance and respectfulness to everyone around you, you are helping make the world a better place for you, your child and future generations to come.
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Do you tell your child that you are proud of him/her?

Sheila Aron — Wed, 20 Oct 2010 13:19:57 +0000

A childs happiest moments are when a parent praises him/her for a job well done, an accomplishment, or for just being himself. The best time to tell your child how you feel is the moment you think it and feel it. It is easy to let a moment pass because your mind skips on to other thoughts. Hold on to this thought and share it. keeping feelings to yourself loses an opportunity for you and your child to talk and to know the love you feel for each other. A child thrives on your praise, acceptance and love. Open up and let him/her know how you feel. Telling your child “I love you” makes the moment complete. It is moments like this that bring you and your child closer together with a sense of pride and belonging that lasts a lifetime. When you show your child love, respect and praise you are laying a strong groundwork for future generations to come. www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

Did you make time today to tell your child “I love you”?

Sheila Aron — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 20:03:03 +0000

It only takes a moment and can make all the difference in your child’s day. Telling your child “I love you” gives him/her a sense of security and wellbeing that will stay with him throughout the day. These simple words carry a deep meaning and are so important for some they even remember the moment, the date, the time and the reason it was said. “I love you” validates your child’s importance to your life. Make it a priority everyday and relish the moment when your child responds with “I love you too”. www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

Do you have a short fuse?

Sheila Aron — Tue, 12 Oct 2010 13:39:31 +0000

Anger is an emotion that we all feel at some time or another. How we deal with this emotion determines whether we have a long fuse or a short fuse. Someone with a long fuse is able to work through his/her anger without making those closest to him uncomfortable or fearful. Someone with a short fuse ignites before giving himself/herself a chance to find out if what he is feeling really is anger or if it is disappointment. When someone has a short fuse that level of rational thinking disappears and an irrational behavior takes over. When someone lets his/her anger get out of control he loses more than his anger. He loses the respect of those closest to him and instills fear. So how does one stop before he/she loses control and has a burst of anger or fit of rage? How does one prepare for unexpected events that might trigger this loss of control? Acknowleging that one has a short fuse is the first obstacle to overcome. Taking responsibiltiy for how you act out your anger is the biggest step and the hardest. Begin by noticing if you have clenched teeth and tension in your neck. If you do, then practice relaxing your teeth, jaw and neck muscles by actually feeling them release and relax. It is impossible to be angry with relaxed jaws and unclenched teeth. Be prepared to recognize when the emotion of anger is apparent. Concentrate and say to yourself “I can control my emotions”. Be in control before anger takes control of you. www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

Are you raising your child the same way that you were?

Sheila Aron — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 12:52:16 +0000

History repeats itself. If you were raised in a loving home where praise, respect and love was regularly shown, then you will probably give your child the same type of home life that you had. If you were raised in an abusive home than you may raise your child as you were. We imitate what we have seen at home and the same goes for our children. Abuse of any type can destroy a persons self esteem, ability to give or accept love and makes forming relationships difficult, if not impossible. If you knew abuse as a child decide now that your child will be raised with kindness, respect and love. Decide today to put an end to abuse forever and start weaving the thread of love for your child and future generations to come. www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

Are there days when being a parent is overwhelming?

Sheila Aron — Thu, 30 Sep 2010 12:59:55 +0000

Coping with daily responsibilities of parenting can sometimes be more than one can handle. It might feel as though everything is coming down on you at once. Feeling overwhelmed can turn a simple job into monumental chaos. Before things get out of control and you say or do something that you regret, you must be tuned in to how you are feeling. If you know that you are feeling overwhelmed ask for help. Find a councelor, clergy or family services in your area. You don’t have to go through this alone. You may think that asking for help shows weakness but, in fact, it shows courage. Help is just a phone call away. Do what you need to do for yourself and your child – ask for help. www.sheilaaronbooks.com