Anger is a natural human emotion that you should allow yourself to feel. It should be directed at the person you are angry with and not at someone who happens to be nearby. Whether your anger happened today or decades ago, taking out your anger and resentment on your child, is unfair and abusive. Anger should be achknowledged so that misunderstandings can be set straight with apologies and forgiveness expressed. Those involved can then move on and an unfortunate situation put aside. Treat your child with kindness, respect and love while teaching him to express his feelings openly. Before he can feel comfortable openly expressing his feelings to you he must know that you can be trusted without fearing an angry reaction. Patience and understanding shown by you spares your child and yourself the sadness of anger, or even worse, rage. Be honest with yourself, come to terms with whoever you are angry with and let go of your anger. If not, it will perpetuate itself and you will suffer even more for it. How you deal with your anger will be passed on to your child who will learn to express his/her anger and frustration in the same negative way. Avoid the path of anger, rage and abuse. Take the path of trust, understanding and love and teach your child how to deal with anger in a mature and honest way. For more information www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

Upsetting the normal routine in a child’s life can create havoc. Kids like to wear the samething everyday, eat the samething everday and have the same book read to them everyday. So how do you go about introducing a new item of clothing, food, book or anything new to them? Some children find change harder to accept than others. For those who have difficulty with it, it’s best to introduce little changes gradually. Instead of the usual Tshirt and shorts, find clothes with similar colors or let him/her pick out a change himself. Be prepared to agree to anything he chooses. If he is not ready, let the moment pass. Forcing a child who is relunctant will create an unpleasant situation and make change even harder next time. Let the choice be his to make and what ever he decides, praise him for making a very good decision. Children enjoy making choices and receiving praise – over time change will become an enjoyable experience for everyone. For more information www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

Children learn quickly the concept of respect, that if you are respectful of yourself and others you will be treated respectfully in return. Self respect lays the ground work for how you treat everyone else in your life. As you interact with other people your child watches and observes -how you talk to someone, the tone of voice you use, if you are patient or impatient – all the while learning to be just like you. How you conduct yourself, the smile you manage to give when under duress or the anger you display, leave lasting impressions on your child’s impressionable mind. The way you treat people influences your child’s perception of how people should be treated. Teach your child self respect and as he/she goes through life this quality will guide him to show the same respect to others.
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Goals are hopes one strives to achieve. Just as you would teach your child the importance of achieving small accomplishments so should you teach your child to set long term goals and how to attain them. Setting goals teaches a child how to plan for something he hopes to achieve in the furute, how hard he/she will have to work to achieve it and the personal satisfaction he will feel when it has been reached. For a small child a simple way to start teaching goal setting could be giving a job that is easily completed followed by words of praise such as putting away all of his toys or making her bed. By setting the foundation of showing your child how to set goals allows him/her to start planning his own goals. The important thing to remember about setting goals for a child is to start off by making them attainable. If they are too hard to reach a child will feel discouraged and give up. The feeling of accomplishment will spur him/her on to try other goals. Whether your child succeeds or fails at reaching a goal, your support is really all that matters to him. Each new goal allows you another opportunity to show your child that you love him/her, whatever the outcome is. For you, this will be a goal well met. For more information www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

A child is a child what ever the age may be. The same need to be loved, valued and appreciated by ones parent remains inside of us throughout our lives. Memories of life as a small child stays vivid in the mind when one remembers how he/she was treated by his parents. A child whose parent showed love, compassion, understanding and forgiveness grows up knowing that he/she is loved. A child who has lived his life without hearing words of encouragement or love from a parent feels the need for it all of his life. One cannot blame the parent who withheld the love because he/she may not have had love shown to him as a child. The child in all of us needs to be reassured that we are loved. Loving words validate each of us and gives us personal self confidence to tackle lifes challenges as they come along. Show your child the love you feel in your heart what ever age you are or he/she is. It is never too late to say “I love you”. For more information www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

What makes you happy? The answer to that question differs for everyone. We tend to measure our happiness by the pride we have for ourself and our accomplishments. Throughout a persons life there might be many accomplishments but, always there is one or two that stands out among the others. For example, the pride that you have for your child can bring overwhelming happiness. Showing that you are proud of your child is how you tell the world that you love him/her. Showing your child that you are proud happens when you say “I love you”. It is moments like this that a parent’s heart fills with pride and nothing can measure up to that feeling of happiness. For more information www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

Managing time is a daily challenge. There is not enough time to do all that you have to do, much less what you want to do. Making time for your family, your work and yourself can cause stressful conflicts. All are important to you and all need your attention. Others can make suggestions as to how you could do more here and less there but, it all comes down to you and what your priorities are. If you slack on your job to give more time to your family, then you might possibly lose your job. If you slack on your family to give more time to your job, then they feel ignored. And if you slack on yourself, than your job and family suffer. The best solution is give your all and do the very best that you can do. Make every moment count at your job – stay focused and productive – show that you are a capable and efficient employee. Take care of yourself – eat nutritiously, exercise regularly, and socialize with friends. Your needs are as important as everyone else’s. And above all else, spend as much time with your child as possible. Tell him/her “I love you” every chance you get and make this valuable time spent together fun and meaningful. For more information www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

It is hard to imagine anyone withholding their love from a child. And yet it is done every day – not by parents who are intentionally wanting to hurt their child but, by parents who simply don’t know how to express their love. Even though the love is there, deep inside, it can still be hard for a parent to express freely or openly. If love was withheld from them as children then what do they have to use as an example with their children? Finding the words to express love as an adult can seem difficult for those who had love withheld as a child. Fortunately, the language of love can be learned at any age and has the same impact whatever your age. Hearing “I love you” or saying “I love you” has a way of making one feel that life is good and any problem can be overcome. Expressing your love allows two people to communicate their feelings, get past hurdles and move on together. Give your child all the love you feel in your heart. The greatest gift you can give your child is to teach the language of love. For more information www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

Empathy means showing concern and understanding for another persons feelings. Recognizing your child’s needs and putting aside whatever you are doing to put his/her feelings first is showing empathy. When you empathize with your child who is sick, in pain, tired, hungry or unhappy your concern gives comfort with a common goal to overcome this problem together . This shows that you are tuned into him and that you understand how he feels. Knowing when your child needs extra attention your empathy gives him the reassurance that you are there for him. It is moments like these that a child remembers and passes the same empathy on to his own child – the next generation. Seeing your child imitate your parenting skills is the highest compliment you can receive. When you reach out to your child by showing empathy your are saying ” I love you”. That is all a child wants to know. For more information www.sheilaaronbooks.com.

Childhood is meant to be carefree, fun, secure and safe. A time for children and parents to explore new experiences together, communicate how they feel and express their feelings openly and freely. A time for a child to enjoy learning with each new days adventure. Hearing a parent say “I love you” leaves a lasting memory which stays with you for a lifetime. Help make happy childhood memories for your child by reminding him/her how very much he is loved. Knowing that can make a big difference between an unhappy or a happy childhood. For more information www.sheilaaronbooks.com.