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Is your child perfect?

Sheila Aron — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 02:50:54 +0000

The answer to that question is “of course”. But do you ever ask yourself if you are a perfect parent? The answer to that question probably ranges from “could be better” to “not at all” and some may even say ”of course”. Most parents tend to be overly critical of themselves and when it comes to the most difficult job in the world, expectations can sometimes be greater than can be met. A very high bar is set for parenting and rightly so. Sometimes the guilt one puts on himself for not living up to his own parenting expectations distracts him from being the kind of parent his child needs. Kids don’t have expectations – all they want or need are parents who show them love every chance they can. In their eyes you are perfect.

How often do you read to your child?

Sheila Aron — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 02:28:53 +0000

Reading to you child each day doesn’t take long and can make a big impact on him/her. It is a bonding time giving comfort after a long day to both. A short book, a chapter or two, even the daily comics can become a special time for you and your child to look forward. The soothing sound of your voice lulls a child to sleep and relaxes you for a restful night. It is quality time such as this that makes such a big difference in a childs life – enjoy it together.

Labels are for products that you buy in a store not for a child.

Sheila Aron — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 04:29:20 +0000

How do you think your child feels when you have called him/her a hurtful name? Hearing labels hurled at him, a child starts to believe them. Abusive insults chips away at a childs self esteem and makes them think and feel that they are unloved and unwanted. Make it a point to tell your child daily how very special he/she is. Let him know that having him in your life makes you glad you are you.

What are your priorities?

Sheila Aron — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 23:15:18 +0000

Wherever you look these days people are in a hurry going from one priority to another. How many priorities can a person have and just how important a priority is it really? For parents who have one or several children, trying to decide how to balance daily demands and attend to priorities can be stressful. Knowing exactly what your priorities are help make deciding how to handle them the biggest hurdle to overcome. Putting less important matters ahead of a priority concerning your child adds to your stress. By being able to prioritze what is and isn’t important you feel more in control of your life and better able to deal with the situation at hand. A child knows when a parent is relaxed and taking the reins of a situation. It is moments like this that a child feels safe, protected and loved. Know what your priorities are and put the less important ones off for the moment. Show your child that he/she is the most important person in your life and that you are willing to put everything else aside for him/her.

How do you build confidence in your child?

Sheila Aron — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 00:16:02 +0000

As children learn to manuver their way around beginning with crawling and then taking their first steps parents praise them with wild applause and proud words of encouragement. But each new accomplishment in a childs life is worthy of the same praise as their first steps which will help build their confidence and self esteem. Small successes lead to big ones and as a childs pride grows, your expressions of love and support lets him know that you are right there with him. This connection lasts a lifetime and, like a priceless heirloom, will be passed to future generations.

Do you speak the language of love?

Sheila Aron — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 16:43:23 +0000

The language of love is spoken in all dialects. Unlike other languages it is not taught at school or by correspondence or at a certain grade level. It is taught from the beginning of life by the first teachers in our lives, our parents, grandparents and loved ones. Hearing the words ‘I love you’ is the first lesson in learning to speak the language of love. Children who miss hearing these loving words find it difficult, even impossible, as adults to express the loving feelings in their heart to those they love. Make each day of a childs life a day of hearing and feeling how much you love them. They learn fast and so begins the pleasurable journey that the language of love brings from childhood into adulthood. Make everyday Valentine’s Day – start speaking the language of love today by saying ‘I love you’ in any dialect. How do you speak the language of love?

Can you love someone too much?

Sheila Aron — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 23:01:19 +0000

Several years ago I asked my 10 year old nephew, “Is it possible to love someone too much?”. His answer back has stayed with me all these years. He said “You can never love someone too much”. Because of what that sweet, 10 year old boy said to me several years ago, is the reason I use any chance I can to tell him ’I love you’. And the best part is that he says it to me too. Children learn from those who are closest to them – make the lessons they learn from you loving and encouraging. You will receive the same loving feeling in return. He was right, you can never love someone too much.

Children have feelings as big as adults.

Sheila Aron — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 22:36:25 +0000

They may be small but, children’s feelings are as big and heartfelt as adults. Take the time to show your child that you understand how they feel and say ‘I love you’ – It will make them and you feel good.

Make everyday count…

Sheila Aron — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 21:33:32 +0000

Each day of a child’s life is so precious and fleeting. Find any excuse to say ‘I love you’ – make each event memorable and everyday an event to remember for generations to come.